Have you encountered a situation where your loved oneOr a distant acquaintance can not get along in any collective. He comes to a new job, there are conflicts, then dismissal and so on the circle many times.
What are the reasons for this relationship in the team?
Our relationship with the team is built inAccording to those attitudes that arose and formed for a long time. Some of the settings are taken from the parent family, both from the first experience of interaction with others, the rest appear later in school age.
In the event of persistent problems in communicating with the team, the following reasons can be singled out.
Opposing your "I" to the interests of the collective
There are people who psychologically likeMerge with others, they very clearly understand their interests, and if they do not try to help others, then at least they do not counteract the interests of the collective or its individual representatives.
In our case, everything is just the opposite. A person who has a lasting conflict with the team initially opposes himself and others. There is a clear division of their interests and interests and the needs of others, their benefits and common good.
If such a person drew a drawing of himself and the team, he himself would be drawn in one sheet space, and the team in another place, and there would be no connections between them.
Inability to enter into a cooperative relationship
In many cases, cooperationGive greater results than the sum of single efforts and almost any person is able to invest in any common cause, and at the same time receiving their own personal benefits.
For example, any employee contributes to theThe work of his organization, but instead receives a portion of the total product or income that he could not create one without interacting with other specialists.
In our case, a person can understand thisTheoretically, but in reality he can not correlate his interests and interests of the collective, he can not enter into a cooperative relationship, where each participant must work for goals that will not bring immediate benefits to him. Here the main conflict can arise.
Our hero will be all available meansTo prevent a well-coordinated interaction, causing irritation to others. Often, and he will show irritation, but already on another occasion, that we have to do something for extraneous purposes.
Use of conflict to assert one's own interests
In many cases, the conflict person uses confrontation in the team to assert its importance or the realization of its goals.
It's just the way he behavesUses unconsciously and can not change it, even if given such a goal. After all, you can ask a person for something, but you can do so that he will have to do it through conflict and various manipulations.
Of course, such a person will cause only a negative and will be the first candidate for dismissal.
To understand why a person does not get along eitherOne team, it is necessary not only to understand its attitudes in relationships with others, but also to consider the reasons for their appearance. In many cases, awareness of these causes will allow much to realize and control their negative manifestations.