An article about our first experiences before birth, how they affect the subsequent life.
What are we thinking about in the womb?
Hello, dear readers!
This time we will talk about the very first experience we received when we appeared in this world, about our birth.
Unfortunately, many of us perceive the very process of the birth of a child, as an unpleasant, painful event that needs to be quickly passed and forgotten.
And, indeed, all of us, except for veryRare cases, we store memories of our birth deep in the soul, simply speaking, we forget our birth. And in vain. It turns out that the way a little man passes his birth may turn out to be a key to what he expects in his future life.
Psychologists have established that the events that took place with us for a very long time, up to what happened to us at birth and even earlier, continue to influence the person.
It turns out that we begin to exist and perceive the world around us not from the moment when we take the first breath, but much earlier. ;;;;;
One of the first scientists who drew thisAttention, was Stanislav Grof. He studied various states of human consciousness using LSD and achieved that he and his patients began to recall events that were forgotten.
First, patients began to recall events fromDistant childhood. Noting that the memory was very realistic - they completely felt like children, thought and reacted to everything like children. Later began to appear memories of what happened before birth.
It turned out that the little man in the womb lives his life, has a wide range of sensations and experiences, which in many respects differ from our present.
What can a child feel and experience before the birth process? How does he feel?
One who has managed to remember his experiences,Related to birth, note their depth and cosmic. Numerous reports show that a child in the womb feels himself not as a separate being, but as if merged with the ocean of life, with the whole universe. The child feels unity with his mother and discerns many of the nuances of her emotional state and, most importantly, her attitude towards him. As if a clear telepathic connection connecting the mother and the child is established.
The child is open to all the experiences of the mother. But its perception, of course, is different from ours. Not perceived and read, not thoughts, judgments and assessments, but emotional states, feelings, experiences.
At some level that has not yet been studied, the childPerceives and catches what is loved and expected. The way a mother treats a child while he is still in the womb, largely affects his entire life. If a mother sends him positive emotions, thinks about him, the child perceives it as a stream of care and love. Then in a future life a person more trusts the world around him, believes that he is loved and supported. Strange as it may seem, but the ability to enjoy life and relax has its roots precisely in this period of a person's life. And, of course, a person receiving a stream of unconditional love and care will be more successful and psychologically stable in life.
If the mother is in a state of stress and withHorror thinks about the birth of a child, then he perceives this as aggression and a threat to his life. Such experiences of the mother can form a sense of chaos and its uselessness.
Finally, the birth begins - the most seriousAnd responsible test. The matter is that at first the uterus begins to contract with very great force, while the birth canal is still closed. A child from comfortable conditions falls literally into hell. The food is cut off, and it is squeezed from all sides with incredible force. This moment can be compared to a sense of lack of an outlet, a trap.
And here the decisive importance is how his mother treated him before. If there was enough love and warmth, then this test is easier to bear.
If this period passes more or lessSafely, the child receives the first experience of patience in his life. Previously, he was in comfort, he received the necessary food, and now he has lost all this. This is the first deprivation in a child's life. If this test passes safely, then in life such a person is less likely to panic during temporary deprivations and troubles.
And if everything was different? Then it is perceived as a collapse of the world, there is a sense of loss, despair, guilt.
In most cases, the mother begins to experience panic at the time of the onset of labor. And unfortunately, this leads to the fact that the child is deprived of emotional support.
If this first experience is unsuccessful, then the feeling of lostness can remain for many years. Here, fear of confined spaces and some of our current problems can also begin.
Then the birth canal opens, and the childBegins to move outward. The feeling of despair, if it remains, is greatly softened, since there is an exit. Skirmishes help the child to go outside, but the child himself makes efforts to approach the exit.
This is the first and very valuable experience of the struggleFor their existence and achievement of the goal. And, in fact, a lot depends on how the child goes this way in his future. If he successfully fights for his existence, then in life he will behave the same way. If childbirth is painful, or, what is very important, a child feels that he is not expected in this world, he can even interfere with his progress. Then in life, most likely, he will not be a "punchy" person, and the very achievement of the goal will be associated with him with unpleasant sensations.
And finally, the child is born. And the way it is met, too much depends.
The appearance of the brightly symbolizes the first inLife goal achievement. If he is greeted with warmth, love and care, then, in general, this test can be considered successful. If a child feels pain, cold and rejection, then his first experience in life teaches him: "Whatever you do, nothing good will come of it."
Emergence into the light is a birth in a new world, where everything is different. However, the tests that fall out to the child remain with him for many years.
Usually the process of birth is considered something of a pathology, something that should be forgotten as soon as a terrible dream.
After all, he carries a lot of trauma. In psychology, there is even the term "birth trauma", and some psychoanalysts will surely see the cause of many problems in the process of birth.
But the birth of a human being has andAnother, positive side. The child receives the first experience in his life - the experience of action, the experience of achieving the goal, the experience of partnership (during childbirth he needs to measure his movement with an external force pushing him out). He gets the first idea of love and acceptance at the level of feelings and sensations.
It turns out that the first contact with thisThe world makes us face with the eternal philosophical questions and problems with which we all have to deal in one way or another. Love is hate, the meaning of life, acceptance and rejection.
So it is worth considering whether the child is as naive and ignorant as is commonly believed in our society.
I wish you every success, dear readers.
Andrey Prokofiev, psychologist.