Children's jealousy is a struggle for the attention of parents by any available means. In the course of disobedience, whims, fights, a demonstration of their own "unhappiness" - there are lots of options.
In this situation, many parents are lost and do not know how to behave.
Children's jealousy can cause an appearance in the familyAnother child. The birth of a younger brother or sister is a new stage in the life of the family. At first, the older child perceives crumbs as a new toy, which is curious to treat and touch. But soon the first-born will understand that the baby has settled on its territory forever. Now you need to share with him toys, your living space, and most importantly - the love and attention of parents.
The smaller the difference in age in children, theJealousy will be stronger. Some children show aggression towards the baby, but even more often they are angry with their parents, who treated them unfairly.
To avoid or minimize seizuresJealousy, it is necessary to prepare the older child in advance for the appearance of the baby. Talk to him, explain that you will also love him much after the baby is born. Try to preserve the already established family traditions to which the elder child is used: family walks on weekends, trips to nature, a fairy tale for the night.
Attract the eldest to caring for the newborn. When you bathe an infant, it can bring and hold a towel, or help lather the child's handles. Go all together for a walk, let the child under your sensitive guidance drive the baby carriage.
Caring along with you about a younger brother orSister, the child will not feel abandoned and unnecessary in the family. No matter how busy you are with the care of your baby, be sure to allocate time for communication with the first child: play with it, paint, or just have a chat.
When the baby grows up, take for yourself the rule,Never compare children with each other. This is the direct way to foment jealousy and rivalry between children. In every possible way, emphasize and cultivate the idea that you are one family, the most close and dear people who should love and cherish each other.
Often children are jealous of one of the parents. For example, when you come home in the evening, you should hug your father and kiss your mother, as a crumb bursts into tears and an aggressive cry: "My mother!" This usually happens in families where the pope works a lot and rarely is at home. In such a situation it is necessary to explain to the child that the mother loves both him and dad equally, and the father should try to spend more time with the child. The main thing that the child understands: you are one family and the pope loves you all very much, and does not intend to take away your mother.
It is important to keep the children confident in parental love. Find your way, which will suit your family, and develop all the children's fears and doubts!