It often happens that a person, being among a huge number of people, feels lonely.
It seems that there is constant communication, interaction with other people, but the soul is very empty and sad.
What is loneliness?
Loneliness is a state of a person, whenWhich he is isolated from others: in the physical real and imaginary soul. In the first case, this is due to some external factors: work in secluded places, forced isolation from society (a dangerous criminal or mentally unhealthy person). And in the second - occurs in the soul of a person, despite constant contact with other people, when there is no related soul, close in the views and meaning in life.
The most difficult is the emotionalloneliness. It can arise for various reasons: parting with a loved one, death of loved ones, moving to another city / country. Sometimes a person is lonely from childhood because of a complex inner world that is not understandable for his surroundings.
Women are more likely than men to suffer from loneliness due to more highly developed emotionality. But sometimes it's very hard for men to experience this condition.
The ways to combat loneliness
The main thing in the fight against loneliness is notDwell on this feeling. A short period to be with yourself is very useful, because with constant employment, there is often not enough time to understand yourself, your feelings and sincere desires. But do not close up, try to isolate yourself from society for a long time, otherwise it can degenerate into a depression, from which it is very difficult to get out yourself without the help of specialists.
In no case should you seize or drinkLoneliness, it will not go anywhere, and the consequences can become very difficult, and sometimes even intractable (alcoholism). It is not necessary to sit down on different depressants, they, of course, will help, but there can be dependence, and the reason will not leave by itself.
If loneliness arose because of parting withLoved one, then do not blame yourself and think of yourself different complexes. Do not dig in the past and remember the good moments, from this feeling of sorrow will only become stronger, and loneliness will become even more evident. Give yourself a little time to relax, rest from everything - find in your state a few positive moments. After all, you have enough time to do yourself and do something that could not be in a relationship. One should feel that he is not a lonely person, but a free man, who does not have to answer to anyone in his actions.
After several days of rest, it is worth going toSociety and take your day to the maximum, so that there is no time for sad thoughts. This is a good opportunity to make a career, get new skills and knowledge, do your favorite hobby. Enjoy every day, and also try to communicate more with positive people who do not experience hard days in their lives, they will help you tune in to the right way. You can visit different places of entertainment, if you really want it, do not do it by force, otherwise it can cause the opposite effect. And never regret the past, because the future depends only on you.
If lonely because of the death of loved ones, thenA little different situation, and this feeling will heal only time. Close people should not be forgotten, but we must understand that you can not help anything and change something either. So take it for granted, but keep on living. And a busy day is also a good way to get rid of bad thoughts. When a person is very tired for the day, then at night it's not up to the experience. And eventually loneliness will not be so acute, and communication with other people partially compensates for this.
When moving to another place where there is no oneFriends, a sense of loneliness can also arise because of a lack of communication with loved ones, when there is no one to share their thoughts and emotions with. Here, the option may be telephone conversations or communication via the Internet (Skype is a good opportunity not only to hear, but also to see a person even in another country and absolutely free of charge). And of course, it's worth trying to make new acquaintances from the closest circle - neighbors, colleagues.
Loneliness is useful for a short period of time, do not feel sorry for yourself, it only aggravates the situation, but try to use it for yourself to improve and develop.