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As there are magic words


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Have you ever heard the words of a mother addressed to a disobedient child: "Damn you, take it!", "So that you die / skis / failed!", Etc. With different variations?

Strangely enough, usually people sincerely believe that"They did not mean anything bad", and 10-15 years later they also do not understand why their child is drunk, becomes a drug addict, suffers from depression, is thrown out of the balcony.

The "black magic" of words

There is absolutely nothing to be surprised at: A grown-up person is merely obediently obeying Mom's instruction to die / sobs / fail, and those "devils" "fight". Of course, no one remembers these thoughtless words and does not attach importance to them, but the program launched in childhood works. In psychology, this process is called - a negative program or a negative scenario. Mages call this phenomenon a curse, and alcoholism, drug addiction and mental disorders are explained by the influence of "demons".
Most often, people have a so-called externalLocus of control, i. Tend to seek the causes of all ills in external circumstances, such as the actions of other people, "demons," the weather, the government or anything else. Therefore, millions of sad stories tell how inconsolable mothers / wives have struggled with the problem of a loved one for years: they shed tears, scandal, coded, go to "grandmothers", put candles in front of icons, etc., etc. And instead, the magic word "forgive", said by the person who "made the curse", could often be the best cure for the ailment. And if he adds to the apology sincere desire for good, the "magic effect" can be much more.
But, of course, not everything is as simple as I wanted toWould. There will be no magic in the words spoken formally. In this case, in order for words to obtain the magic power of healing, it is necessary to realize the source of the problem for the sufferer himself and sincere confession of guilt and repentance on the part of the negative program that put it. And if for the understanding of the dependent cause of the problem a long work with the psychologist is necessary, then to recognize the guilt by his relatives they need to do a titanic work on themselves to overcome their own defensive mechanisms, who vied with each other: "It was not!", "I never wanted my evil Child! "," I'm a good mother! "," This is nonsense, this can not be! "," You do not understand it all! "And so on.

It is interesting that the word "war" comes from the Church Slavonic "boron", which means "struggle", and "swearing" in Old Slavic meant "mockery."

Do not think that only directThe wish of evil can lead to negative consequences. When one person calls another by some definition in the form "You are bad / stupid / slovenly / confused", such a formula does not simply induce behavior in a given key, but becomes, as it were, a name for one "named" in this way, and from Own name is almost impossible to get rid of. Fortunately, here there is a downside: if the name becomes "beautiful", "clever", "skilful", etc., this will create a positive program, but still an external, artificial program, and this is the limitation of the personality by the prescribed framework . Should such programs be considered magical? Certainly. Another question - is this kind of magic?

Good magic

In order not to face destructiveConsequences of their own rash words, people long ago invented religious and ethical norms. Long before the apostle John, who proclaimed "In the beginning was the word," the Indian sages developed raja yoga, the first two steps of which presuppose the practice of purity of thoughts and purity of words. And for people who are not too burdened with spiritual practices, there is an ordinary politeness - for thousands of years the verified ritual of communication, including, including the utterance of "magic words", which explicitly or implicitly carry positive wishes to the interlocutor.

The word "politeness" comes from the Old Russian "Vezha", which means a knowledgeable, knowledgeable. Hence - a direct link between knowledge and good will.

So, the simplest greeting is "hello"Concludes the wish for health - "thanks" (from "save God") is like an appeal to the Almighty with the request to save the soul of the grateful, and "thank you" already means that the very gratifying person has the intention, at least mentally, to give a thankful reciprocal "courtesy "(" Give "something good, show" love "). And "please" is a request to "welcome" something, that is, to "bestow", "reward".
Well and all words in all languages, having in structureThe word "God", have an exclusively positive meaning. Here the Russian "rich", "hero", "wretched", and Polish zbo? E (meaning "bread in grain"), and the Czech zbo? I ("state"), and the ancient Indian bhagas ("wealth", "happiness "), And even the Avestan ba? A (" master ") and many other examples.

As there are magic words Was last modified: May 23rd, 2017 By Xifwoobf
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