How much depends know, from an emotional person.
And in the context of stuttering emotions it belongs to one of the leading roles on the right.
Imagine a situation when stutteringpeople want to say anything, and he can not or he speaks very badly. He wants to express a thought, and leaves some confusion. This situation naturally gives rise to a number of negative emotions that are not always disappear.
Let the general reaction, dividing them conditionally ontwo parts: the emotions that occur abruptly, strongly and quickly fade, and emotions that are almost always present beneath the surface and accumulate gradually and imperceptibly. The first type may include irritation, resentment, aggression flashes (for example, say they wanted to curse everything, to fall under the ground), and others. The second type consists of dissatisfaction with himself, fate, their defect (claim and others.).
Of course, our division is conditional. Unpleasant situation give rise, as a rule, and those and other emotions. When there are at least two ways this type of emotion, which can further to their existence.
The first way - the emotion is expressed in action andlived anyway, disappearing without a trace. For example, shouted at us - we go to the gym, Dolby pear and our irritation "disappears." Or do we allow ourselves to feel this negative emotion and express it in some way, and after a while she herself becomes obsolete. In any case, the emotion is transformed and does not cause harm to us.
The second way: man locks inward emotion and does not allow her to speak, does not allow himself to live it. And in this case, it goes into a person (let's say, in the realm of the unconscious), and begins to manage it, you have to program in a situation similar to the one in which this emotion appeared. And here a vicious circle: the situation is the failure of certain emotions, and they are not receiving permission, creating new same unfortunate situation.
Unfortunately, most stutterers are exactlythe second, unproductive way. In the context of stuttering, it looks like this: the situation is the voice of failure creates a flash of negative emotions that do not find their natural resolution and locked inside, and once inside, begin to cause the following situations speech failures. The same vicious circle.
Unfortunately, such moments tendaccumulate, and in the worst case, stammering a few years or decades, accumulate a large baggage of "good". But it is not all that bad. Fortunately, we have many mechanisms of purification from unnecessary emotional stuff.
Almost any tradition of cultivation, there are ways and techniques to get rid of him. Consider those that are relevant in relation to the problem of stuttering.
1. Firstly, you need to break the vicious circle: the situation - the emotion - the situation. It is not easy, but you first need to take a philosophical position, in which you will not be the case with every speech failures fall into the rabbit before a boa state and generate a bunch of negative emotions.
It is necessary to take a position at which no matter whathappened, you quietly take as the resolution of the situation. Since you do not add negative feelings within yourself, then it decreases factor, which actually creates a situation of speech failures.
This is easier said than done. In such rethinking sometimes takes months. One way to implement this method - a diary.
You take a blank sheet of paper and divide it into threeof the two vertical lines. The first column describes the situation (can not in great detail), in the second - their reactions and feelings. In the third column, you write the way you would like to respond to such situations.
I went to the store I was terribly razoz- I know that attach
and I showered and came offended excess value
on foot even though he knew that; this situation. AND
;;; I did not want to continue, I'll be the ratio
; offend ;;; sitsya this
This is a sample text in the third column you canchoose what suits you more. Gradually you will be able to reprogram yourself and react more calmly and with dignity on problem situations. It takes such work 10-20 minutes a day.
This we blocked the only arrival of fresh negative emotions, and what to do with those who have already built up in us?
2. It is useful to engage in individual psychotherapy with a qualified professional. Especially if it helps pereprozhit early childhood resentments.
3. To work out and release the emotions that are stuck in us deeply, we can constantly (once a day) to keep a diary, describing those experiences that will appear throughout the day, or specifically evoke the events that were painful, and write a diary, indicating their feelings and experiences.
4. It is useful to engage in aggressive sports, so it's good to get rid of fresh, unexpressed emotions.
5. Very deep work, in my opinion, there is in preparation for the "super complicated" speech situation. For example, you have to make a presentation tomorrow. If you have a problem in this area it is most likely that you have a lot of repressed feelings and experiences with respect to speaking in public. Perhaps already it had a negative experience. It is these suppressed feelings are programming you to repeat the old negative experiences. And if they survive before the event itself, nothing will have to repeat the programming of failure (or the likelihood of significantly reduced).
We need to sit down, calm down and very slowlyview the future performance in full detail. Live different options. Feel the worst option - because presumably it could happen. Imagine the worst: you do not get, go some hesitation, the audience, wondering begin glance, someone begins to guess about your "small problem", someone has already quietly chuckles. Now refer to your feelings. What do you feel? Resentment, anger, a flash of anger, humiliation? Let it appear that you fear the most. If you allow yourself to see these feelings, so they have fewer. Emotion is expressed when a person allows it to pass through itself, though it can be a little painful.
You can help yourself (although not necessarily)writing down on paper what you feel, living this situation in advance. Sometimes it is necessary several times or dozens of times mentally live such a situation that they did not cause panic and strong negative feelings. Of course, we must remember that the process of liberation of deep emotions can be lengthy. Not everything happens on the first try. This process takes time and work.
I wish you success.