Midlife crisis - a serious test for the man and his family. It should be seen as a temporary phenomenon.
The article defines the crisis, its features and simtomy.
Practical advice to help people experiencing this condition and their inner circle to go through this period without a fatal loss.
Midlife crisis - it is one ofvarieties of spiritual crisis, coming in the age of social and physical maturity. In its manifestation, it is similar to the crisis of meaning in life. The difference is age characteristic. Over the raison d'être of thinking in any period of life.
This is a condition where the previously acquiredlife strategies and behavior of the circuit, as well as the philosophical principles lose their relevance, and cease to work. Trying to live by - the old doomed and only aggravate his symptoms.
Who is subject to a mid-life crisis
The most common - is quite successful, wealthy peopleboth sexes. They have achieved a high status in the social and personal life. Adequately cope with providing for the family and raise offspring. Characteristic established way of life, a constant scope of activities and interests.
The symptoms of midlife crisis
The growing sense of bleak apathy ordepression and even melancholy. The whole previous life, with its achievements - is losing value. Man thinks that he is a robot and did not live for himself, slavishly carrying out the duties towards others. The familiar environment and work to cause boredom and irritation. Reduced performance suffers general condition, sleep disturbed. There may be psychosomatic disorders (pain in different parts of the body, malaise) and neurotic manifestations. They are associated with attempts to force myself to go back to my old life.
What caused such symptoms
1., Hormonal changes in the body, entering the final phase of existence. This is often accompanied by increased libido (desire for the opposite sex). The desire to feel young.
2.; The completion of the human biological program. They grow up and become self-reliant children. Parents, too fixed on the lives of the offspring, when they feel a sense of alienation of emptiness and uselessness.
3.; Rather high affluence leaves a lot of free time, reduces bio-survival of the system voltage. Not all are able to fill the vacant space, as used to live intensely and fight for survival.
4.; Decreased or absent sexual component with the usual partner in marriage.
5; The predominance of economic relations, the relations of mental, family and inner circle man.
Common mistakes that people make, experiencing such a crisis.
1; Trying to change everything. The most radical solutions associated with the sale of the business, leaving to other places, the rupture of relations with family and friends. They are seen as shackles that prevent a happy life. As a result of the loss of status and financial problems.
2; The creation of new families with younger partners. Many see such a relationship sense return, youth trend. The cycle is repeated and the person falls into the same dependence as before, but with other characters. At the moment of the love and lift forces, the time comes a sense of well-being. But the consequences are dire. Short-term recovery, is replaced by the recession. Destroyed usual, the former stable and reliable relationship. A new communications - are more painful and difficult. The age difference, the difference between the turns of interests and needs. Compounding the feeling of age, growing jealousy and discontent.
3., Abuse of alcohol or other psychoactive substances. Euphoria and unconventional behavior associated with them creates the illusion of joy and fun. However, this short-term excitement turns into severe depression, loss of credibility, loss of health.
How to survive the crisis of middle age without losses
1; Know and understand that this aging process associated with emotional and physiological reorganization of an organism.
2, With an increase in symptoms take a vacation and go to a quiet corner of nature (fishing, hunting) or another long trip (to yogis to Tibet).
3; To leave the old stereotypes of behavior and acquire new spiritual needs. Engage personal growth, to attend training sessions, to acquire new knowledge.
4.; If you have love, sensible to treat its manifestations, and not behave like a "mad elephant" that destroys everything around. You can get all the sensations, without warning and traumatizing relatives. Knowing for sure that they are finite.
5; In favor of going any spiritual practices, especially Qigong, martial arts, yoga and others.
Tips relatives of a person passing crisis.
1; more patience and understanding, in spite of the unpleasant and frightening symptoms.
2, consider this state as a temporary and painful.
3; Attend therapeutic support groups.
4; Search for new points of contact, cause new interest, to maintain a spiritual quest.
5, Do not make hasty due to acts of emotions leading to the destruction of the family and household.
In conclusion, it should be noted that the crisis -a kind of morbid condition. And any such state finishes healing. Difficult period passes, and ends with a sense of maturity and peace. New spiritual interests take precedence over the needs of the flesh, and life makes sense again. It turns out that no one has done nothing wrong, and the death of the old ego, gives rise to new feelings of happiness and well-being. Changing only their source - it is enclosed within each human being. Opens great truth - joy in the living of life. After all, it is so short.</ P>