Live in a constant race for compliance with someone'sInvented ideals, experiencing, infinitely improving themselves and everything around them is catastrophically difficult, as well as incessantly worrying about a foggy future or tasks whose solution is now unclear.
Letting go of the situation - how is it?
The Council to "let go of the situation" can be heardoften. At the same time they say: "Relax, do not fuss, let everything go its course." And the share of pragmatism in this is, but ... If the problem is urgent for a person, it's eating him, everything reminds her, and you can go to sleep and wake up with only one thought: how to get out, what to do. In this case, the energy goes more to the experiences and "running around in circles," but to take oneself in hand, stop and just do not think a person can not. So what do they mean when they say "let go of the situation"?
Unfortunately, the level of empathy is not developed in allgood enough. Saying "let go of the situation", the interlocutor from the outside may see the redundancy of your experiences, but not be able to or even try to enter your state, understand its causes, and feel your pain. By and large, he does not care, and maybe his own plans for the next dinner take him much more. But what can you do?
In addition to the very incident that you are soThere are many other things, problems and events in your life. Take care of them, think about them, do not allow yourself to sink in a puddle of your own fears and insecurities. Let it be even the smallest household tasks - do it as if at the moment nothing else matters, with full dedication.
But also to brush aside the problem, of course, just like thisIt will not work out: for a long time without finding a solution, it can wear you down, lead to a nervous breakdown or even insanity. If you think that you can not cope with the situation on your own, ask for help from a psychologist or a psychotherapist. Shameful in this there is nothing - on the contrary, now it is considered even fashionable.
If you are sure that you can find out for yourselfIn yourself and curb your feelings, start working on yourself in this direction. Describe the situation as you see it, as well as your emotions and feelings. You can imagine at the same time that you are telling all this to a loved one who understands you. Include in yourself an inner parent who accepts you as you are, wholly supports you and wants to help you. Tell him in paint what happened, as if a child who had injured a finger complained to his mother or father.
Then turn positive thinking on and go toSolving the problem creatively. Start to think up for yourself possible options for resolving the situation, you can even the most fantastic. So your brain will be busy with business and will not be idle (and for him it's oh how difficult), attention will no longer be in the negative, but in a positive way. In addition, your imagination can be played out so much that it will even cheer you up or at least calm you down.