Whatever one may say, human life consists not only of joyful events.
In place of merriment comes grief, submissively submitting to the unspoken law of nature.
And, oddly enough, it seems much easier to experience trouble personally than to be close to those in whose life she broke into.
The bitterness of loss? An integral part of human life. Some come to this world with cries of weeping while others leave it with tears and sorrow of relatives and friends. This is how nature works, and people only have to adapt to its realities, sometimes quite cruel. Losing one's loved one does not have to think about how to react and behave in the current situation. It's hard, it hurts, but you can not think of any other behavior. If, on the mountain, one has to look from the side, there is a need or a desire to express condolences to the mourner. But how to express them correctly?
Condolences in the framework of business relations
If trouble has overtaken the person with whom you,Rather, in official relations than in friendly ones, it is more correct to follow the art of communication, excluding the rules of bad taste and familiarity. With the words "We grieve with you" or "Accept my condolences" you can shake hands with a colleague, lightly touching the left arm of his forearm. Such a gesture will allow you to express more sympathy and at the same time you do not risk crossing the line of business etiquette. If you have this opportunity, you can provide financial support to the family, but in this case it is necessary to focus on the norms accepted in a specific circle of people. No matter how you want to share his feelings, do not forget that extra words can hurt a person who is in distressed feelings.
Condolences in the framework of friendly relations
If a person who has been dear to your heart has lostClose or native, then you need him more than ever. He does not need your right and skillfully chosen words, but in sincerity and friendly support. Do you want to share with the friend the bitterness of his loss? Be close, help, than you can. Let him feel that you are with him, that he is not alone. From a beautiful and correct phrase it blows cold, and in sincerity there is always a little awkwardness. Speak not with your head, but your heart.
If you are emotionally close with your friend,Then his soul will respond to your genuine compassion. Showing respect to his family, participating in the organization of the wake, you will bring real benefits. Just imagine how difficult it is, facing death, think about everyday problems and fuss, organizing a mourning event. Your friendly duty is not so much to properly put words into sentences, but rather to provide real support to a friend.