The two main questions that cause contradictory feelings among parents are questions of punishment and praise.
In terms of punishing disputes, it is not what they need, but what form they should take. Someone considers physical punishment to be the most effective, but someone categorically rejects it.
Some parents solve all the issues in the form of a conversation, and someone thinks that it is absolutely useless to talk.
Strangely enough, praise also causes parentsContradictions. Some parents believe that praise does not happen much and reward with enthusiastic exclamations almost every movement and word of his child. Others believe that praise should be earned and pleasant words their children hear, only really having achieved great success on their own.
In fact, the excess of praise is just as dangerous,As well as its lack. Praise for any reason, and even in the absence of punishments, leads to the fact that as a result the child grows spoiled. He does not consider it necessary to try, because he is already praised, even if he does not do anything. There is no incentive to self-improvement and to set goals and achieve them.
A lack of praise leads to a loss of confidence inItself. The child gets used only to constant criticism, considers worthy of love only those who have deserved it. Including myself. Such children, growing up, very easily fall under the influence of the one who will first meet on their way and caress. A girl in adolescence who is in childhood most often marries almost the first man who told her a kind word.
As in many issues, in this veryThe best option is the golden mean. The child should not be left without praise if he has achieved something, even if the achievement is small, but on the scale of the child's world it can be the most important at the moment.
But to praise for the fact that the child has long been able,Hardly worth it. It is strange to praise a first-grader for knowing a childish quatrain about a hare or a bear. The requirements for the child still need to grow with him.
But one should not confuse praise with manifestations of love. Even in the absence of a reason for praise, you can let the child know that he is the most beloved and dear to parents. Praising an act and caressing a child are two different things. And do not replace one with another.