Questions affecting conflicts betweenChildren-students and their parents, today are especially relevant, because children, becoming actually adults, still depend on their parents, which creates a lot of problems in communication between them.
During the period of students, people prefer to spendTime with their peers, thereby pushing communication with parents as far as possible. Usually the influence of parents on student children is already very limited, because they are no longer able to control the life of their child, as it was before. The main source of such problems is that parents do not understand the child's inner world and are mistaken in his values, feelings and aspirations.
Very often you can hear from your son: "They do not hear me at all." Parents do not want and do not know how to listen to their sons, smugly believing in their own life experience.
Parents, remember that a student son hasThere can be three negative reactions to you: reaction of refusal, that is insubordination, reaction of the opposition, that is demonstrative acts of a negative nature, reaction of isolation, that is, the desire to stop communication with parents.
Even despite such a clear confrontation, childrenContinue to feel some need for your support. It's great if you are a friend to your son, because as a result of your joint activity a deep spiritual and emotional connection is being formed. It is necessary to find ways to maintain and establish contacts with the son, because he wants to share his experiences and tell about the events for the day.
But, on the other hand, a very strong guardianship can deprive your son of independence and the ability to enjoy freedom, which will increase the opposition between you.
Young people who are satisfied with the communication with their parents, have a special ability to self-assess and analyze people in their social circle.