Fear - the feeling, though hidden away deep in the human genetic code, is shown not from birth.
But in life there are circumstances that bring discomfort or threaten the well-being.
Here and fear comes to the surface, recording it all in his "little black notebook."
But a person has persistent fears or phobias.
The decision to deal with their fears rathercommendable. Only this can allow a person to move forward and win, despite the circumstances. The mechanism of formation of the fears is that as soon as you give in to one of them, and having read to avoid anything that is connected with it, others too are beginning to feel at ease.
So fears and multiply. But it is necessary to begin to deal with even the most simple and harmless ones, as you have in your head is born a mechanism that you can apply to any other fear. It turns out, the most important thing here - to get a skill that can then be applied to any phobias. You can start with the smallest and most simple fears, it's even better than just threaten to "lump".
Be aware of some thing like that, what are you afraid. Identify the fear. This is the first thing you should do. For example, you are afraid of public speaking, but always tell yourself that "you have nothing to say to these people," or "this public unworthy of my great ideas." Behind these excuses may well hide a fear. Ask yourself, maybe you're just afraid to do it?
Sometimes it happens that you feel fear, but can not understand exactly what it is afraid. Write down anything that seems uncomfortable or horrible, until you understand what the main reason.
Once it became clear what the root of fear, act contrary to this. This is the second step. Fear robs power, but you have more of them, because you have to admit its existence!
The third - think that can happen verybad if you do what you afraid. In most cases, it turns out that nothing bad, in fact, occur and can not. But if any consequences will seem really dangerous, be sure to reduce their probability to a minimum in advance. Sometimes it is useful to imagine yourself looking at the problem, after 20-30 years. Does it seem too small?
And if indeed the consequencessuch that they can greatly impair your life, then maybe it is not necessary to deal with that fear? Perhaps it is the instinct of self-preservation offers not dance on the edge of a precipice?
The fourth step is to take a soliddecision to act. Fear has not gone away, but notice how he cringed? Now somewhere in a dark corner of your mind hiding a small lump of material with a high density. He is just waiting for one thing - no, not failures! He expects you to give up the solutions. Even the unfortunate result will help to cope with fear.
The fifth step - act. Put yourself in a difficult (but not too) situation that you can handle.
It may be that the first time you could not. Then do not reproach yourself, and embark on another attempt. Happened? Hooray! You won.