Every mountain has a beginning and an end. Only grief of parents who have lost a child, it seems, knows no bounds.
After the terrible events to return to normal life is very hard, the pain of loss is so strong that it takes all the power.
The death of her child - this is perhaps the mostordeal, which can give life. This is very scary, extremely painful and almost unbearable. Most parents, forever lost their children, do not even imagine how to live.
4 stages of recovery after the child's death
The first thing to do after the death of the child,It is to recognize the fact of the loss. So say psychologists. Many parents are immersed in self-deception and denial, trying to avoid suffering. This manifests itself protective reaction of mentality. But to recognize the irreversible death of a child is necessary.
The second stage will be a full recoveryAccommodation grief, maximum dive into it. Under no circumstances should one try to forget or move away from the event. So parents only disguise his pain - from themselves, from others. Subsequently, this pain will result in serious illness or mental disorder. To purify the soul, will have to open the wound, according to experts in the field of psychology. It is difficult, but it's the only way to recover from a heavy loss.
In the third stage the parents need to changeway of his life, to establish communication with the outside world, but without a child. With the death of the baby's parents feel lost, as an object, they care no more. To the meaning of life is not lost, it is necessary to do what could not be carried out during the life of the child. These chores and lessons need to fill your free time. Establish social relationships and living conditions without the need of the child, or for many years will not be able to recover from the loss.
The fourth stage is the recoverythe formation of a relationship to the deceased child. To live a full life, feelings should be allowed to regroup. It is important to get rid of feelings of guilt, resentment, fear. Understand that this stage is successfully passed, it is easy. If parents can speak for the dead child without paralyzing pain if their sorrow became quiet and light, and emotion directed at life today, it means that recovery was successful.
Life after death of a child
In the name of your child, give all that is notIt got him to other children, people. Accidents and deprived lot, they are sorely lacking warmth and participation. If the parents can not be solved with a new pregnancy, unspent love should be directed to the people around them. Child does not take away from death, but to make the other children a little happier - afford everyone!
If the mountain is really experienced, parentsThey feel that they can return to normal life. As you progress through all the stages of recovery, people gradually calmed down, and his life returned to normal, the old interests are returning, life is filled with new colors.