In the debate there are always losers and prove their case. For the most part, I want to be the second, not the first.
But hold discussions so that they did not go to abuse, and denounce your thoughts to the human right is not always easy.
Set a clear goal. Do not think abstractly, and decide what you want to achieve this conversation. Specify in advance what is going to say. Phrases should be short and clear that the source did not lose the thread of your argument in the middle of flowery example.
Do not forget who you're talking about. All people are different. Some people do not react to emotional persuasion techniques, and others - on the rational. For example, some follow the logic. Talking with someone you have to resort to facts and accurate information, and to maintain a formal style of communication. Emotional people are attached to feelings, but remember, the less you know the person, the less it is acted upon arguments based on your feelings.
Keep an eye on the facts that you provide. Put yourself in your opponent and determine what arguments "beat" him in the discussion. Try to present them in the following order: first - strong, then - the average, then - the strongest counterargument. Weak facts better not be tolerated. Some people believe that a well-etched in my memory about what was said at the beginning and the end.
Respect your opponent. If you show respect for his opinions and beliefs, the other party will not need to be protected from you. This will facilitate the process of persuasion.
Do not belittle yourself. Do not apologize for your opinion. How can I rarely ask for forgiveness, or else will seem uncertain.
Start with what you have in common. If it is difficult to reach an agreement, begin with what is common between you and your interlocutor, not with the reasons for the differences.
Listen and understand what you say. Misunderstanding just stop you convince your opponent. Listen to him, do not interrupt and ask clarifying questions.
Convince interlocutor that the idea came from him. People believe, more to himself than to others. Use phrases like, "You know, you said yourself ..." "Your words led me to believe ...". Let your partner feel that at least some of the proposed by you - his own ideas.