The problem of fathers and children was raised by Turgenev in the 19th century and has not been resolved to this day. In a few families between the elders and younger generations there is complete mutual understanding.
One of the most popular stumbling blocks is study.
Of course, there are children who prefer textbooks to entertainment. But there are not many of them.
Parents are forced to invent a variety of ways to increase the motivation of the child.
Praise for success
Many parents are punished for bad grades, andGood people consider it a common thing. Act in a different way. The main emphasis is on good marks. When talking about the bad, do not raise your voice and do not offer a ready solution to the problem. Better ask the question: "How to do it better?" If the child finds it difficult to answer, help him.
Motivate with money
Create a fee for the evaluation: Five is worth, for example, 100 rubles - four - 50, three - 0 rubles, for a deuce - fine. As a fine, any work (washing dishes for a week, cleaning the apartment itself, etc.) can be a fine. Be sure to discuss each moment with the child, so that later there are no unpleasant conversations and insults. It is better if you make a written contract, which will indicate all the smallest nuances. There must be two signed copies of the document, one is kept by the child, the other is kept by the parents. Thus, in the contract there is also a playful moment, which is valued by children.
Motivate with gifts
This method is similar to the previous one, only instead ofMoney is their material equivalent. For example, for the end of the academic year for a single five - a gift for a trip to the sea - for a four - a bicycle, etc. Only preliminarily discuss with the child of his desire that your gift really served as a motivation for him.
Find out what the child wants to become in the future. (Try to discuss it, not your desires.)
After that, show what objects to himWill be needed in the chosen profession. Most likely, there will be two or three such. Then make it clear that the writer is a physicist, and the builder needs Russian. And not to expand the horizon, but for development. If the brain is trained by solving problems in several specialties, then each new task in any field of activity will be easier to solve. If you conducted the conversation correctly, the child will receive an internal motivation, which is known to be much higher than the external one (money, gifts).