If someone in your family was in the networkaddiction, then you can not avoid confusion, new issues and problems whose solution could come not at once. There are many books written narcologist, psychotherapist and addicts themselves.
But there are a few major landmarks, following which it will be easier to help his cousin.
Help the addict can be divided into two stages: before and after treatment. Unless you can convince him to be treated, while he denies the existence of dependency or claims that it is not a problem for him, your position should be extremely tight. As soon as you found out that your child, sibling or spouse is using drugs, talk to him about it. Do not read notation, and ask him, try to understand his position. What he thinks about it? What are his plans? Will it be treated?
Of course, you arrive in shock, but only scandalsaggravate the situation. Drug addiction - not a one-time offense, and chronic disease with its prerequisites, symptoms and consequences. The stories about the dangers to health and attempts to shame, unfortunately, can not be cured. If a person has not yet matured to the treatment, do not drag him forcibly to expensive clinics and magicians, charlatans.
It is possible to inject the drug, removing and breakingdeducing the drug from the body, but it is impossible to stick to the head dependent thought that he had to stop using drugs. And even more so there is no pill that will give him the will to abandon the desired potion. So what can you do? Be tough. Collect your own will in a fist, let you know about your problem. Explain to them that they have to be careful with money, though not lend without financial help. It is difficult to say, but it's better if they learn from you and support than if they would whisper behind your back.
In no case do not give to "dose". Do not give in to blackmail and provocations, do not ruin a loved one their own hands. Each "last time" you will bow down and swear to the legs, but the last time did not come until the addict does not run out of money.
If the addict began to steal and is foryou and your family danger, change the locks and kicked out of the house. Put the condition, let alone back after treatment. It sounds extreme, but it is this extreme, often dependent helps collapse the track curve. After appearing on the streets in hunger and cold, a drug addict, "to see clearly", he begins to realize where he slid down and find a way out.
Do not tell lies, do not cover, do not inventjustification for friends, employers or teachers addict. He himself must take responsibility for their lives. Covering absenteeism and piercings, you are renewing the way to the bottom of the addict. A genuine solution to be treated, as a rule, appears on this very day.
Consult a therapist or narcologist. The specialist will advise you, answer your questions, let you know how best to do it in your case. The therapist will help you to stop looking for the guilty, and to get rid of codependency, which are often suffering relatives of drug addicts. After the loved one would want to be treated, change the "temper justice with mercy", provide him support, but beware.
Help me choose a place for treatment and rehabilitation. Addict himself unable to cope with this task. If you do not have money to pay the treatment, please contact free narcology. On account of the first time there is not set, and assistance will be provided about the same as in private clinics.
Treatment consists of medical parts (removalbreaking, cleansing of the body) and psychological rehabilitation, which takes place when the patient is already at home. The second part of the treatment is particularly important and time-consuming. It can be said that the rehabilitation of the addict needs for the rest of their lives.
It is now you need like his closenever. But your goal is not accusatory surveillance and re-traces of drug use and not intimidating. You need to "forget" about drugs. Do not remind me about them, do not goad a man of his recent past.
The addict will learn to live again, to search for goals andsupport, learn to find strength to overcome difficulties, to relieve stress, to spend time and enjoy life without drugs. Become him a good friend. Respect, try to be interested in something fun and rewarding, take the case.
Very often occur after treatment relapse. In such cases, you have to start all over again. It is very hard to bear, but try not to lose heart. Still I want to briefly write about what not to do, even though such thoughts come to mind for many parents of drug addicts.
So: Do not run and do not send a drug addict in the village, do not send him into the army, do not put in jail. These "great ideas" have a simple logic - to postpone their "krovinushku" of drugs hidden away. But, alas, these days you can get drugs anywhere, especially in the army or in prison. On the move, you can think about after treatment.
Change the situation and the absence of reminders and"Soigolnikov" can have a positive impact on rehabilitation. The goal of drug treatment - long-term remission. There is no way to get rid of drug addiction. But if the addict has a desire to get well, and nearby there are competent experts and loving people, then there is a chance.