Harmonious relations are the resultLong work of a couple in love. Many people have a wrong opinion about the fact that a person falls in love, creates a family and that's enough. But time shows that strong relationships require constant work on themselves.
Over the years, there is a growing disagreement betweenSpouses. The usual word "thank you" is often forgotten. Gratitude to the beloved is expressed only on holidays. Why is this happening, and is it possible to return the former intimacy?
The causes of what is happening are in us the most. In the rapidity and hectic of this time, someone forgets, someone does not have time to pay enough attention to their second half. Unwillingness to better understand each other also leads to a cooling of feelings.
What is the chance to build a relationship? He is very large, you just need to work on your mutual understanding. Do not be frightened by the word "work", because the relationship inherent in the rule "how much you invest - so much and you will get." To date, to solve problems, many resort to the method of adult therapy.
It was first used by AmericanPsychotherapists Harvill Hendrix and Helen Hunt, who achieved significant results. The essence of the idea of imago-therapy lies in the openness of partners, in their ability to trust the chosen one. The main tasks are the reunification of partners, as well as the development of listening skills.
To solve problems,Imago-dialogue. With its help, partners channel their energy and emotions to the companion's understanding and sympathy. This gives an opportunity to once again feel the charm of intimacy and the forgotten feeling of peaceful love.
The sequence of dialogue is conventionally divided into 4 stages:
1. Creating an enabling environment, that is, no one should interfere with you.
2. Select the one who will start speaking first and who will listen, and repeat the speaker's words.
3. "Talking" should say three suggestions about gratitude to the partner.
4. "Listener" repeats the words he has heard.
When the "speaker" listens to the words he says, heMust feel his speech from the side, rethink it. If you decide to cope with your own problems, then you will be helped by special video lessons. If you want, you can attend trainings, seminars on this subject. But if it is not possible for you, then you should always seek help from a specialist.