How to fix your state of mind?
What are the conditions for this?
Each of us has moments in life whenWe are overwhelmed with different feelings and experiences. It can be, as positively painted experiences, and can be, on the contrary, such experiences from which it would be desirable to get rid as soon as possible.
When joyful moments of life come, wePrefer to enjoy them, experience them in their fullness and, if possible, keep them as long as possible. From negative experiences, such as anger, anxiety, discontent, try to get rid of.
There are many ways by which you can get rid of negative experiences, or at least change them so much that they will not do us harm.
Let's imagine any negative experienceAs an imbalance in the system, a kind of breakdown. For example, in a state of spiritual harmony, nothing puts us out of balance, all as if in their places, we have positively emotionally colored experiences in which we are comfortable. When negative experiences arise, the harmony of the soul disappears. How is this manifested?
Firstly, it becomes bad for us. Agree, it is not the most pleasant thing to experience irritation, anxiety, etc. Life becomes joyless and empty. Also our negative experiences can poison the life of people around you.
Secondly, any strong experiences (especiallyNegative) require a large amount of our life energy. Remember how worrying worries, although outwardly, with excitement, we just usually walk around the room, which in itself can not cause fatigue (however, some run on the ceiling). There is less energy left for everything else.
It turns out that our body has all the necessaryMechanisms that allow us to balance all emotional processes. The organism itself brings us into balance, if we do not interfere with it. It requires only solitude, time and some conditions.
In the simplest case it looks like this. Suppose we are slightly burned with hot tea (not so that it is very painful, but unpleasant). There is some negative experience, fortunately, in this case, not strong and short. We hold our hand under a stream of cold water, and after a while we forget about it. And now the most interesting is where did our negative experience go? After all, we did not make any efforts to make it go away. And the fact is that our body itself took care of this experience to go away. This example shows how the body itself copes with our imbalance. But in life it usually does not work, usually this imbalance is greater than what our body can "process" and it only accumulates. And here we need some conditions, of which we have already spoken. Then this natural mechanism of "processing" of mental imbalance can be launched. We all use it to one degree or another, and here the point is not to interfere with it at least, but how to help start working as much as possible.
In order for us to come into balance,You just need not interfere with our natural healing mechanisms. Namely, you need to give yourself some time and allow yourself to feel, live, "rework" all the "unnecessary" feelings and experiences that are in us.
Do we feel irritation, or even anger? Great. Let this feeling be, develop your natural course, watch it, do not delay it, so you allow yourself to "rework" it. The main thing is not to hide these feelings in yourself.
There is a huge number of simple and at the same time accessible ways with which you can put your state in order.
1. Running or any suitable sports for you.
This should be any exercise involvingSome muscle tension and movement. The fact is that, conditionally speaking, your emotional stress during these exercises turns into a muscle and thus is discharged.
In the process of bodily exertion, you cease to restrain your feelings and there are conditions when they begin to manifest themselves, and when manifested, they allow the body to come to a more natural state.
Relatively speaking, when you start running, you haveUnexpectedly for you can appear negative experiences, such as irritation, anger, apathy, etc., can recall any events that carry an emotional charge. This is what you need. Hence, the process of liberation from them has begun.
You just need to live, feel, "work through" everything that you will feel.
There is no need to force anything or especially to remember something. All you need to pop up is yourself. You have created the necessary conditions for your body to bring yourself into harmony.
And, of course, the most important criterion is the feeling of pleasure and renewal after playing sports. A sense of satisfaction just shows that the body has brought itself into a state of harmony.
For each one, one needs time for suchLessons. Someone is 10-15 minutes long, someone will have a real effect and satisfaction 30-40 minutes. The only criterion of correctness is your state.
2; Keeping a diary.
This is a very interesting way of putting yourself in order.
You take a sheet of paper or open a notebook andWrite everything you want to write. It can be either an event that left you or that sludge, or your current experiences, or maybe you want to say something that you could not tell to another person for any reason.
If this event, then you just need to describe it as if you are telling a close friend, marking those feelings and feelings that you have caused.
If your experiences are not related to anySpecific event, then simply describe what you think and experience at the moment. Write down your current thoughts and experiences, how incoherent or absurd they might seem at first glance. If this is groundless unrest, then write them down as many times as they come to your mind. Each time they lose their power. However, several more conditions are necessary for this. The first is to completely concentrate on your current experience, on what you feel "here and now" (so that no one jerks you, and that it does not happen that you write about one thing, but think about what it would be faster to finish And do business). You need to set aside some time, relax. And the second - it is necessary to strictly dose the time of such work, for example, no more than 10-15 minutes. Then your experiences will be weakened.
Of course, if you describe a specificEvent, the time frame should not be set. You work until you feel that you have "reworked" the experiences that you had. In the process of such work, for sure you will change the attitude to the events described, new thoughts will come, you will be able to rethink and revise something in your life.
And again - the most important criterion is improving your state of health and mood.
This method is somewhat like a sporting activity, but it has a softer effect.
You just need to go through the forest, the park, the street,About nothing specially thinking. The very rhythm of your steps will create a special state in which you will calm down and there will be an opportunity for the organism to regulate itself.
The most important thing is, naturally, to go withPleasure. It can take a lot longer than other methods - from 30 minutes to several hours. Again, you can determine it according to your feelings. Surely you will remember any events, situations or your current affairs, and the rhythm of your steps will help you to think about this philosophically, and not hastily with excitement. It is in this mode that it is easiest to calm down, rethink something and allow the body to regulate its condition.
4, "Observing Your Experiences."
This whole class of methods that are used forRestoration of forces. This and various meditative techniques, and autogenous training and many other methods, a description of which is found in numerous literature.
In the simplest case, you just sit down,Relax and begin to observe those thoughts that come to you, not dividing them into necessary or unnecessary, good or bad. Allow to be any thoughts and experiences, without chasing them. Then your mind calms down, and after a while you come to a state of greater balance.
Watching your experiences, you help yourself to cleanse yourself of all that is superfluous.
Of course, in order for these methods (and others)Gave a good result, you need some training and patience. It is necessary to test these methods, select those that suit you in the best way.
Andrey Prokofiev, psychologist.