Sometimes it happens that the time does not heal, and the perfect one error for many months, or even years, poisons your life.
Instead enjoy a fine day, success at work, and a new relationship, you repeatedly scroll in the head a painful situation for you, coming up with alternative solutions.
Whatever it was, if you want your life once again began to play with paints, you'll have to do it - forgive yourself for the mistakes.
You will need
- A piece of paper, pen, phone.
Try to remember in detail the situation when you have committed a mistake. Do not throw a tantrum, but quietlyplay the reasons that prompted you to go for it, some minor details. Abstracts, take a piece of paper and write down all this. Think of what you said about his mistake by someone else.
Now, remember and record your actions, which have led to disastrous consequences, that is, the action of which is your fault.
And now, if you wish, weep. Arrange a tantrum, break a few plates, toss pillow cat, knock his head on the wall. After you cry, and you will become easier to re-read your notes, representing at the same time that they did not write about you, but someone else. Think about it, if this "someone else" is doing well, so that the suffering due to perfect them as mistakes.
Think of how you could do differently in a situation where a mistake was made. What would be the consequences of such an act had? What prevented you to do so?
Find the phone numbers of people affected byyour mistakes, call them and apologize. It does not matter if you are experiencing due to the events that happened ten years ago. Even if your partner could hardly remember when you hurt him, you still will become easier after the spoken words of remorse.
Make the necessary conclusions for themselves and try to make as many good deeds as possible. Being on good terms with themselves and others, to enjoy every day - this is a guarantee of happiness.