In the life of every person comes a time when you have to answer for your actions yourself and make decisions on your own. But not all adults are endowed with this skill.
And most often this problem runs from childhood.
Surely everyone has such a familiar person.
Do you want to see your child like that? Is he a successful and respected person, confident in himself?
Not only does the child grow up independent, that he simply grows up.
This should be taught.
To look it is necessary, first of all, onOwn requirements for the child. Do you give him the right to choose? Start small: what to eat for breakfast or what socks to wear. Gradually, the sphere of issues in which it will be possible to entrust the decision to the child will increase.
But remember that at first you need toGive the child options for choice. Asking the question: "What should you prepare for breakfast?" It is quite possible to get a cake, sweets or something extraordinarily delicious according to the child's opinion. A few years of the child's life this question should look something like this: "What kind of cereal do you want for breakfast: buckwheat or oats?". Then the child will learn how to choose from the possible options. And later he himself will be able to offer his own adequate option.
The reverse side of independence -Responsibility for your choice. The child must learn to accept the consequences of his choice. And of course, at first he will need the help of his parents. Otherwise, he will not understand that you should not wear woolen socks in summer heat simply because it's hot in them. If you simply ban such experiments without explaining the reasons, it will seem to the child to be the causeless whim of the parent, nothing more. But after spending half an hour in them, the child will remove and next time will have more confidence in the warnings of the parents, because they have already tested their correctness by experience.
Give independence to the child and do notTo control his parents is very difficult. But being a parent is hard work. Sometimes you have to sacrifice your own peace for the sake of the child. And this is exactly the case. After all, controlling each step of your beloved child, it's easier to be sure that everything is good with him, that his health and well-being are not threatened. But it should be remembered that this is simply necessary to do for the good of the child. After all, parents can not be with him all his life. And the best thing that loving parents can do is prepare it for an adult independent life.