Adopting a child is one of the most important solutions for many couples.
Not everyone is ready to take this step, but if the decision is made once and for all, you need to think about the problems that may arise in education.
The problems can be divided into 3 groups:
- Adaptation of the adopted child in the new family-
- Child health.
Adaptation of the adopted child in the new family
To adopt a child at any ageIt looks back is not the rainbow experience. And even if you just surround it with utmost care and love experienced trauma will be the first time in one way or another, but to manifest. It may be anxiety or sleep disturbances, lack of appetite, unusual reactions to what parents do. In the first stage a mistake to assume that the heat, care, comfortable home and a variety of toys immediately change the baby. He often wondered why he was thrown, they left why, why had no one cared about him and did not like. These issues need to prepare in advance and, if necessary, to provide psychological support for the child. No need to be afraid if the child begins to close or, on the contrary, to throw out the accumulated emotions out.
Sometimes the child may begin to reject their parents,and a variety of ways: to swear, behave badly, to invent tricks, causing a negative reaction on the part of adults. These problems can be solved, most importantly the right approach to it and, if necessary, turn to a psychologist.
Often there is a reverse situation. A child who has not received a sufficient amount of love in the past, trying to fill this gap, and very much tied to those who care about it, it can be not only parents, but anyone developing a child care and attention. In this situation, the child appears more objects of adoration, but in fact it leads to the fact that the child to anyone not tied for real. He is passive and trusting that a certain kind of problem for the establishment of normal relations and contacts with others and especially with parents.
In the process of education happens is thatparents, finding no contact with the child, beginning to blame not only himself, but his that he did not appreciate, do not try to improve relations, causes conflicts and quarrels. But in this case, the parents simply forget that such behavior is simply protection of the child, most often it is sewn on a subconscious level, all that survived the kid before. There is no need in this case to give up the child (as is common), you need to consult with experts and with their help solve any problems. With the right approach within a short period of time it will change the behavior of the child and would not only be very happy, but also make happy his adoptive parents.
Many adoptive parents are afraid of panicheredity, and it often becomes one of the problems in education. Fear of heredity there for a reason, but because of the perennial claims that apple from the apple does not fall far, and the child an alcoholic, a drug addict, a troubled person also can not be a good and a full member of society. But such an opinion - a relic of the past, geneticists have repeatedly argued that although heredity influences on personality development, but it is not dominant. Only education is capable to form the personality of the child and only from it will depend on the way in which it will grow.
Do not be afraid of heredity, no needfear that the child's parents have laid him something bad. It should first of all think about how to make sure that your approach to education is not provoked negative consequences.
Health scares the parents of the adopted childnot less than heredity. The fears are justified, since they often raise children in an orphanage does not allow to come to grips with his health, but it does not scare the prospective parents. The level of development of medicine is now so high that all the health problems are easily solved. And the disease is often not serious enough to intimidate them yourself. Moreover, there is a possibility that even the most healthy baby health problems sometimes occur with age, but from such a situation no one is immune absolutely.
If you have decided on a very serious andresponsible step, weigh all the "pros" and "cons", so as not to make a mistake and do not cause any harm to the baby or yourself. Problems will always be, but they are the right approach will be resolved almost immediately. When bringing up an adopted child have to think about every step and action, because on you will depend on the way in which the child grows, and how it will relate to you and to others. In most cases, host families and happy children and parents, and often it is impossible to assume that the child is a foster.</ P>