Communication with teenagers has many features.
To help a child at such an age develop in the right direction, it is necessary to start taking his interests into account, as well as to make some changes in his own behavior.
Children in adolescence seem to many alreadyRather mature people, some expect from them judiciousness, responsibility and thoughtfulness of their actions. However, these are empty expectations. The brain of an overwhelming number of children at this age is at a critical stage of its development, the child during this period needs support from adults and is not ready to act completely independently. Your task as an adult is to help him survive this time. Do not expect too much responsibility from the teenager, do not force him to be an adult. Loosen control and let them be children.
Fears and suspicions
Fear is the natural companion of the majorityTeenagers. Some fear teachers, others - their peers, others - disapproving responses from the party, etc. Do not become an additional source of fear for the child, make sure that next to you he feels protected, create an appropriate atmosphere for him. Whenever you see a child at that age, you must radiate positive energy and thereby inspire confidence in yourself. Do not load it with questions and do not arrange interrogations, do not treat it with excessive suspicion.
Adolescents desperately need empathy andSupport from the outside, they are constantly in search of people with whom you can share what they are going through. Many people need this empathy, but in teenagers this need is expressed especially strongly. Communicating with a teenager, look him straight in the eye, listen carefully to what he is saying, and show sincere interest. Adolescents rarely need outside help to solve problems, they need an attentive listener who is ready to support them. Thus, in order to establish contact with a teenager, be ready to give him emotional support and empathize with his feelings.
Struggle and competition
In adolescence, children are looking for a way toThemselves, they constantly compete with their peers, prove the rightness in communicating with teachers and parents. This attitude can manifest itself in communication with each person. To find a common language with a teenager, you need to give up fighting with it. Such communication will be much more productive, it will be deprived of many meaningless disputes.