Communicating with adolescents has many features.
To help your child at this age to develop in the right direction, you must begin to take into account their interests, as well as to make some changes in their own behavior.
Children in their teens seem to have manyquite adults, some expect them to judgment, responsibility and thoughtfulness own actions. However, it is empty expectations. The brain of the overwhelming number of children in this age passes a critical stage of its development, the child in this period needs to be supported by adults and are not ready to act completely independently. Your job as an adult - to help him get through this time. Do not expect too much from a teenager responsibility, do not force it to be an adult. Loosen the control and let them be children.
Fears and suspicions
Fear is a natural satellite of the majorityteens. Some are afraid of teachers, while others - their peers, and others - disapproving feedback from, etc. Do not become an additional source for the child of fear, make sure that next to you, he felt protected, create an appropriate atmosphere to it. Whenever you see a child at that age, you have to radiate positive energy and cause the most credibility. Do not load him with questions and arrange interviews, do not treat him with unnecessary suspicion.
Teens in dire need of compassion andsupport from the outside, they are always looking for people with whom you can share the fact that they pass through. In such empathy need many, but in adolescents expressed this need is particularly strong. Communicating with your teen, look him straight in the eyes, listen carefully to what he says, and show a sincere interest. Teenagers rarely need outside help to solve the problems, they need an attentive listener who is willing to support them. Thus, to establish contact with the young person, be prepared to give him emotional support and empathize with his feelings.
The struggle and rivalry
In adolescence, children are looking for a way to showthemselves, they constantly compete with their peers, prove the correctness in communication with teachers and parents. This attitude can manifest itself in communion with each person. To find a common language with a teenager, you need to give up the fight with him. Such communication will be much more productive it will be deprived of the set of senseless disputes.