Parents are not chosen. Therefore, when there are problems in communicating with parents, they must either decide, or temporarily refrain from meetings.
But completely disconnecting from them means giving up a very important part of your life.
Therefore, it is better to change the situation, restore trust and mutual understanding, improve relations with relatives.
Start with yourself. It is possible that you have some resentment against your parents, a claim to them, a feeling that you were treated unfairly once. Forgive this to your family and try to forget all the accumulated negative. This will allow you to start building relationships from the very beginning and do it with an open heart.
Try to give your parents all the tenderness andLove, what you can. They will not be able to overlook this and not answer you the same. Try to give more than you want to receive. Try to understand your relatives, support them with word and deed, take an interest in their health, problems in life. If in your relationship before that there was a long-term ice, the first response from relatives can be negative, even inadequate. It's not scary, with time the attitude of relatives to you will begin to change for the better.
Try to communicate more often with your parents,Call them, visit them. More often tell them that you love them, hug them and kiss them. For them, this is much more important than even expensive gifts on holidays. Be always sociable, friendly and cheerful. Parents will see that for you, communication with them brings joy and pleasure. Thus, it is possible to "cure" even the most complex and spoiled relations.
A frequent cause of quarrel between parents andOlder children is the desire of moms and dads to fully control the life of their children and manipulate it. In this case, you need to separate your privacy and personal space from your father and mother, do not give them a chance to terrorize you. At the same time, continue to take care of them, express your love, visit them. And so that the process of "separation" of parents from your life does not lead to numerous scandals, treat them like a doctor treat a patient: calm and benevolent, but at the same time firmly, not reacting to provocations.
Learn to listen to the opinions of parents. Very often the conflict arises when parents, not agreeing with your opinion, simply try to convey to you their life experience. In this case, it is better to listen to their opinion, analyze it, try to work out a compromise between your desires and the recommendations of the older generation. In any conflict situations, try to conduct a reasoned argument based on logical inferences, examples, facts, and not emotions. And do not ever lie to your parents. When the truth comes up, they will understand that you do not fully trust them.