The view that the soul of the company can only become a particularly talented, charismatic person, is not entirely true.
To learn effective methods of communication, to manage the attention of a group of people, to maintain and develop good relations with others can, if there is a desire.
Learn to listen. This quality is even more important than eloquence when building effective relationships. Become an excellent, attentive, understanding listener, and you will be loved in any company. Use the techniques of active listening: keep eye contact with the interlocutor, ask questions to clarify certain points in his story, gesture, show that you listen and understand him.
Practice in communication. Become your own in a new company is easier for that person who communicates a lot. It is not enough to know the secrets of effective communication. It should be regularly and for a long time to train them in practice. Try to establish contact with each of your colleagues, do not be afraid to have a small, insignificant conversation with a stranger.
Develop a sense of humor. A person next to whom is fun, easy and good, like a magnet, draws other people to him. Keep a few jokes and funny stories in stock, watch more comedies, read ironic stories. Treat everything with a little bit of irony, be optimistic, cheerful person, and you will be able to win the love of others.
Do not forget to give people compliments. Sincere praise for a non-trivial occasion will lift the mood of people around you and arrange them for you. Just remember that the compliment should be truthful and not too exaggerated.
Try to get rid of your complexes. To do this, you need to love yourself, focus on the strengths of your character and advantageous aspects of your own appearance, and forget about shortcomings that can not be corrected.
Develop. Be an interesting companion. To skilfully support meaningful conversation, you need to be interested in the realities of life around you. The more versatile a person you are, the more topics you can talk with other people.
Watch your appearance. Let your clothes be ironed, shoes - clean, skin - fresh, hair - neat. With a man who looks good and smells nice, I want to communicate much more than with a slut.