Some representatives of the fair sex unwittingly alienate young people. The reason may be insufficient softness and femininity.
A strong, successful woman can take care of herself and build a career.
However, those who bend with rigor and independence, can doom themselves to loneliness.
Start with a sincere desire to change. Understand that it will be easier for you to build relationships with others and perceive life's circumstances when you remove from your character excessive assertiveness, rigor and rigidity.
Take off part of the responsibility. Perhaps you take too much on yourself, strive to control all the processes that occur in your life, and the lack of gentleness in your character is a consequence of your position. Try to shift some assignments well to other members of your family or colleagues, and you will see that the world will not collapse, and it will not fail without your direct participation in everything.
Be kinder to people. Let sarcasm and cynicism remain in the past. Instead of evil jokes and pricks against friends, make compliments to them. Think about the feelings of others and try not to hurt their feelings. To yourself, too, should be treated gently and with love. Get rid of the habit of criticizing your own mistakes and shortcomings too much.
Find yourself an example of gentleness and femininity. It can be a familiar girl or movie star, the main thing is that it should be the embodiment of qualities in which you feel a lack. Observe the example and try to learn some features, habits, look, smile, words and behavior. It is important to understand the very essence and philosophy of true women.
Communicate more with women. Perhaps the lack of softness is the result of working in a male team or in an atmosphere of absolute rigor. More often meet with friends, start conversations on classical female themes.
Feel free to express your own emotions. It is not necessary to consider it as a manifestation of the weakness of impulses to embrace a person or to say a kind word to him. Also, there is nothing shameful in crying over a sad book or a sentimental film.
Ask for help from other people, especiallyRepresentatives of the stronger sex. Sometimes it's so nice to seem like a weak woman, feel it. Moreover, there can be a situation in which you really need a man's power. So take advantage of the moment and ask for it.
Check your wardrobe. Remember that external changes help to bring about an inner metamorphosis. So get in your closet more feminine outfits and ornaments.