Go together with a psychologist on 7 steps - seventhe most common emotional and psychological reasons excess vesa.Na every step you will wait for a new cause of extra kilos, picture, explaining its essence, and an example to make it easier to understand and recognize examples from their own zhizni.Vyberite one to three psychological causes of his overweight and ask a question to the author in the comments or in the forum.
He will help you to work on yourself and eliminate these emotional key to the door, behind which hides your slenderness.
You will need
- - Half an hour of free time
- - Faith in their own strength
- - A burning desire to become leaner
- - Psychologist, ready to come to the rescue
The penalty itself.
Whenever we perform any action that we define ourselves as "bad" or "unworthy", we unconsciously begin to treat yourself as an angry parent.
We punish ourselves, we criticize and get angry at yourself,sometimes I hate myself for it. This creates tension and a sense of guilt. When we are frightened and tense, we tend to repeat it wrong and ineffective behavior. So there is a range of penalties itself.
So, the first psychological cause excessweight - it's masochism or the punishment. For example, we are "bogged down" and load up again at night, unconsciously, we understand that they had made "a bad action." we get angry at yourself, strain and again begin to experience "a brutal famine" or hunger.
To install at the presence of psychological"Punishment yourself" answer to your question: "For which I was punished eating habits in childhood? What I continue to criticize and punish myself now? For what actions around food, I'm angry at myself? ".
A very common psychological causeany problem, not just overweight. Every action, our every deed, as a rule, is based on a hidden purpose or motive. We do not do anything for free.
Ulterior motives, as an emotional cause of excessweight, we often are not realized. For example, we are gaining extra weight to hide the lack of confidence or become weightier and better. So, feel important and successful.
To realize at the "hidden motives" of excessweight, in answer to the questions comments: "What gives me my weight, my fullness? What are the psychological benefits I get along with the new pounds? ".
Literally from birth, we learn by copying actionsand the appearance of significant figures that surround us. We sculpt cakes as well, as did our grandmother. We joke and shakes the bangs, almost the same as joking and shaking his forelock our dad.
We copy not only the behavior, often the objectrole models are the eating habits of our idols and appearance of important people. For example, we have seen the "jam resentment" our elder sister. Or subconsciously we strive to be like in all our full mummy. Thus the image is gradually formed our "self."
Be aware of whom you have chosen a role model. Ask yourself the following questions: "Whose food habits I subconsciously copy? Who do I look like? What kind of person I wanted to be when I grow up? ".
Prints of the past.
Many of our motives are not very healthy behavior is literally imprinted in our memories as a child and prescribe it to us again and again.
Most of the prints of the past are verbalcharacter. We can point to our clumsy gait and had called "slow cow". Or tell us about someone, "he eats like a pig." We were able to slip a piece of cake every time, when we were bad, with the words: "Eat my child, and you immediately feel better."
You can immediately recognize "the prints of the past" about your appearance as recall only what words you called him as a child? What feeding behavior prescribed?
Language of the body.
We all know that the word can be cured, andYou can kill or make the experience unpleasant feelings. Our body is subject to the language of the subconscious suggestion, which often look like the humor and banter on himself.
Body language, manifested as psychologicalthe cause of excess weight, often expresses the idea that "a good man should be a lot", and here we see the sort of good-natured, fat man who could barely move around the house.
Be aware of the language you speak with your body, any verbal suggestions do it, what words are asking to be fat?
Any psychological problem, as a rule, corresponds to the internal conflict between "want" and "can not", between the "do not want" and "must." The cause of obesity is often such a conflict.
Imagine a person who has the desire andprohibitions of equal strength. Remember of course in physics, two vectors with the same force move in opposite directions add up to zero force. So full of people want to lose weight and limit yourself to food, at the same time eager to eat another piece of cake. As a result, he is exhausted and disappointed in myself, when dropping a few extra kilos, he gathers them again.
Realize an internal conflict. Who and with whom conflict within you? Between what desires and what restrictions you toss?
Being traumatized emotionally orpsychologically, we carry within us this pain and this tension for many years. We could get a trauma in childhood, adolescence or early adulthood and experience a lot of stress at work, to be witnesses or participants in a car accident.
For example, as a child, you could see an argumentbetween their parents. You want to protect the mother or father, and have decided that you need to be big and strong to be able to fend for themselves. Or, if you "eat at work" envious colleagues, you subconsciously start to grow in size, because the big man's right to eat is not easy.
Remember, members of any traumatic psyche, disasters or stress events you have been in the distant or recent past? As these psychological traumas affect your weight?